If you are emotional and want to scold children, remember the following reviews. A child is a holy person. The child is the most beautiful gift. The child is a gift of God. How many couples want the presence of a child? Well, we who have been blessed with one child or more should have equipped themselves with the science of educating children. Science is not only useful for us as a parent, but also for our baby. One of the provisions we can do is to read a lot of parenting books. Well Parents, do not scold children and do not compare children with others. Why should not we scold the child? Besides it is not good for child development, here are some of the effects of scolding the child.
The child will feel Minder
If your child is often angry in the presence of others, then the main attitude that they often experience is to become inferior. The child will probably experience prolonged trauma. When his childhood he often you angry and you snapped in the face of many people. Although sometimes people around perceive these actions as ordinary actions. But for children, it can make his soul depressed.
Children will be afraid to Socialize
Maybe you unknowingly rebuked, “You stupid kid!”
What is the effect of the anger on the child? He will feel confident that he is a really stupid person. Because his parents had also to judge that he was a stupid child. This will certainly have a negative impact on the development and interaction of children later.
When he grows up, the assumption that he is stupid will remain attached to him. In the end, the child will have a minder attitude. Continuation of the attitude of the inferior is the child will be difficult to socialize with people outside. It is because of the lack of confidence that has existed since he was little.
It will get worse if parents do not play a role in the formation of the child’s identity. If a parent lets the child continue to live in his confinement, then he will be hard to socialize. Socialization is very important in a life. Imagine, man will always depend on other human beings. In any case, he will always need help from others, either directly or indirectly. Therefore, it takes a good social attitude to facilitate him in the process of socializing.
Being Selfish and Temperament
Another consequence of child-beating behavior in public is that the child becomes a selfish and individualist individual. This happens because the behavior of rebukes will also lead to the child’s hard attitude. If you do so constantly, the child will become a rebellious and violent individual. His belief in about slowly vanished so that he became arrogant and indifferent to the surrounding.
One of the behaviors that children often do is to imitate their parents’ habits. When he is accustomed to the anger of his parents, he will imitate the same action. To brother, sister, or to peers. Even for trivial matters, he is not awkward to do so. Children do not hesitate to perform such actions in public. Because he reflects on the actions of his parents who often do the same in public.